Wednesday, September 26, 2012

The Definition of Love, by Ryan O'connell.

Read this somewhere. Extracted for your reading pleasure. 

You can stop taking quizzes in Cosmo. Here’s what love really is.

Love is still wanting to hold someone after you climax. After the initial euphoria from the orgasm wears off, you’re replaced with a sense of calm rather than a panic. You don’t want to search for your clothes, scramble to find your keys and figure out the best way to tell them, “See ya later forever!” You’re fine with chilling out in bed with the person and maybe ordering pad thai later.
Love is unattractive. It can expose our worst traits: Jealousy, irrational fears, heated anger; the gang’s all here! While it can bring out compassion and tenderness, it can also make you behave like the ugliest version of yourself. That can be okay for a little while, but love with real longevity should be like a xanax rather than an adderall.
Love is not afraid to be schmaltzy. There’s a reason why the most popular love songs are so lyrically simple. You can drown it in metaphors all you want but love usually boils down to, “You make me so happy. I want to hold your hand. I just want u 2 be mine 4ever!” You can be a 50-year-old linguistics professor at Columbia University and still find something to relate to in a Mariah Carey ballad if you’re in love because the feelings are so universal. It’s humbling, isn’t it? No matter who you are or what your background is, love can reduce you to Mariah Carey mush.
Love is an all-consuming drug. It gives us these natural highs we’ve only read about in books or heard in songs. It’s addictive. It’s what keeps us going to bars, drinking glasses of wine, going to that stupid house party in Bushwick; it’s all for the possibility of finding love. In the wrong hands, love can be dangerous and scary. If someone lacks a healthy foundation, love can kill. All of these crimes you read about in the newspapers are usually linked to passionate love. “I did it because I loved them just…too much.”
Love is not what our parents had. In high school, you never wanted to think about your mother and father having once slept with people in the backseat of cars and feeling warm and happy. That would make it feel less special and young. It would make love have less to do with you when, EXCUSE ME, it has EVERYTHING to do with you.
Love is getting drunk with your significant other at a party and taking a cab home with your bodies intertwined. You feel safest in these moments, the most secure. Entering a social gathering with someone who loves you is the biggest security blanket. People leave the party as a parade of droopy expressions and sad cocktail dresses. But not you. “Sorry guys, I’m in love! I’m taking a car!”
Love is fucking stupid. Love is fucking smart. Love is about betraying yourself, of compromising your ideals for someone else’s approval. That’s actually the bad kind of love, but I guess it all blurs together when you’re young or when you’re old or when you don’t love yourself.
Love is your significant other telling you about their favorite album and then making a point to fall in love with it on your own. Love is wondering why your better half loves certain things. You think you can find remnants of them in their favorite films, books and songs, but you usually can’t.
Love is finding yourself feeling protective over someone else’s well-being Love is being incensed with rage when someone or something has done your lover wrong.
Love is wanting your partner to cum. And if they can’t, just say, “That’s okay. I’m enjoying this.” It might be bullshit, but they’ll be orgasming in the next five minutes. Trust me.
Love isn’t always marriage. Marriage is spending $60,000 so everyone can know that someone loves you. You know what’s certainly not love? Debt. In some cases, love can be divorce.
Love is a back massage, a mindfuck, a hard cock, a pair of perfect breasts, of feeling unashamed about the cellulite on your body. Love is someone giving a shit about you enough to argue. Love is not passive. Love is “Don’t fucking touch me right now.” Love is “Who the FUCK were you talking to?” Love is sometimes hating yourself for a second. Love is hate. Period. Indifference is the real killer of love and the true antithesis.
When love leaves you, you should be lying on your bathroom floor with no resolve. You’re smoking cigarettes in the bathtub and crying about everything bad that’s ever happened.
Love is someone seeing the beauty in you and wanting to bask in it every day all day. Love is not guaranteed. We are not owed love. That’s why when we get it, we know how lucky we are and hold on to it for dear life.
So, yeah. That’s what love is. 

Saturday, April 02, 2011

Happiest day of my life.... no more....

Today was suppose to be the happiest day of my life. We were suppose to hold our customary wedding today. But all that's not to be anymore. How things have changed. The turn of event is too much for the heart to take. Its heart wrenching to see how a marriage would end up like that. Its painful.... very painful...

Was that a good decision? Was that a right decision? Is there such things as good or right decision when it comes to matter of the heart? I really don't know. But I do know that things have happened. Things have changed. She made a decision, I accepeted it, and stuck to it.

I just hope that she will be happier without me... and that she can go fulfil the dreams of her life without me holding her back or suffocating her with my love.

Monday, January 17, 2011

Who am I?

Sometimes, the events of life takes such a heavy toll on you that you somehow forget who you are... You are so busy and stressed out, trying to meet the demands of other people such that you totally lose yourself. You don't know who you are anymore. You don't know what you are doing anymore. Who are you? Who am I?

I really wish that life could be simpler. I can only wish.

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

You lead, follow or get out of the way - but you never stand still. ~ LG Desmond Quek ~

It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secured, to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful. There is more security in the adventurous and exciting, for in movement there is life, and in change there is power. ~ Alan Cohen ~

Losers live in the past. Winners learn from the past and enjoy working in the present toward the future.
~ Denis Waitley ~

It is better to be hated for who you are than to be loved for what you are not.
~ Andre Gide ~

You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly.
~ Sam Keen ~

"A true leader has the confidence to stand alone, the courage to make tough decisions and the compassion to listen to the needs of others. They are much like eagles...They don't flock, you find them one at a time."
~ Mac Anderson ~

Wednesday, April 21, 2010


This is getting more stressful than I thought. I'm learning how to
manage the demands from different important people in my life and the
learning curve is really steep... Can I manage? I really hope I can...

Wednesday, April 07, 2010

Testing mobile blog


Thursday, March 18, 2010


Me and my lovely wife :)

Things to look forward to...

Life has been quite exciting since the beginning of the year. I got married with my lovely wife on 06.02.2010. Had a fun time planning for the Solemnisation Ceremony. We also bought our own HDB Flat! That was kinda unexpected because we were expecting to wait for the BTO due to some constraints. But with the right blessing, we managed to get our dream home sooner than expected. It is going to be a very fun and exciting year. There is the customary wedding to plan for, our pre-wedding photoshoot, collecting our house key and renovating it!

I must admit that it is kinda stressful for me because it is financially very tough to handle all these event at the same period. Work is piling up and baby is gonna have her exam soon, so there are really alot of things to worry about. Despite these, I think it is important to enjoy the process and stay on the positive side as this is a once in a life time experience.

I am really looking forward to collecting the keys to my new house and doing it up. It will not be a smooth journey and there will be obstacles and problems every now and then. But with the support of my wife, I am sure we can overcome all difficulties and obstacles. :)

Friday, October 02, 2009

Respect the Dead...

Learn to respect the dead. Sometimes, the more you try to get rid of all things associated with them, the more they will come back for you. I am seriously pissed off with the way a certain someone handles my grandma, who passed away recently. Her actions seriously show how unfilial she can be. She has no respect for the dead. I seriously wonder how someone like her can sleep peacefully at night after doing all the bad things. I hope grandma gives her enough nightmares to scare the shit out of her every nights.

And I believe in retribution... your children are watching and that will be the exact same way they are gonna treat you when you die next time.

Sunday, September 27, 2009

The forgotten blog...

When was the last time I blog? I can hardly remember if not for the fact that the date is shown in the previous post. Been too busy to blog. Things happen too fast. Too much things to do with too little time. I'm no longer the happy student who has lots of time to spare. Its a cruel world out there and the fight for survival continues. No reason for this blog. I just feel like blogging and I don't think I need to give an explanation for that.

Talking about survival. I went for my JCC in Jun and finally got a badge on my chest. Going for the course really wasn't my plan. Some "good" friends said that we should all go together and we happily signed up for it..... I was the only one at the JCC Selection Test. And since I was already there, I decided that I might as well complete it and get a badge (I need one soon anyway... ).

That was the most painful course I've ever went through up to this point in life. 9 days of walking, walking and more walking in that crazy and merciless terrain, on only 2 days of ration and a fucking big field pack... its crazy. I don't think I should be going into the details. What's important is that I completed it and is proud to be wearing the badge now. Next up, maybe another one coming up? Only this time, it will definitely be less crazy.

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I have finished reading 2 of the most meaningful books I have read thus far. "Leadership and Self-Deception" and " The Anatomy of Peace"... I think anyone who wish to improve their life and improve their relationship with others should read these 2 books. I find them very useful and I felt that I learned alot from them. It allows me to handle certain situations better. I am able to think out of the box and approach a problem in a different and more workable manner. Highly recommended.

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Went for a Sydney holiday trip with baby in Aug. It was really my first proper holiday. 2 whole weeks of holiday... No need to think about work, just relax and enjoy. I enjoyed the trip alot! We went to Gold Coast too but did not managed to do much there, except going to the Movie World and Sea World. It would have been more fun if we have better financial capability cuz there were a lot of things I wanna try. Nvm... next time perhaps... :) Oh, and I miss Krespy Kreme soooo much now. Singapore donuts are really hopeless compared to Krespy Kreme. Where to next? I'm not too sure. But I am definitely looking forward to the next holiday!

Saturday, June 06, 2009

"You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before, she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She's not perfect - you aren't either, and the two of you may never be perfect together. But if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break - her heart. So don't hurt her, don't change her, don't analyze and don't expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she's not there."

Friday, January 02, 2009

MRMC Closing Run

As with all other years, MRMC will have a Closing Run at the end of the year. It is the last ride of the year and marks the closing of the events in the year. This time round, it is an overseas ride to Kukup Malaysia.
As usual, gathering at the Mac near the old Tang Dynasty.
Getting ready to move off~!
The custom was jammed packed with cars and bikes... took us nearly 1 hour to clear the Singapore Custom at 2nd Link. By then, Xris's V-rod's battery is already flat. Luckily with have the "mechanic" around. KC took out the battery from his bike and help Xris jump start the bike. He succeeded!
And so we moved on, for the short ride to Kukup...
Finally reached Kukup and parked our bikes in a little shed...
The ladies....
Had early dinner.. food is average only...
Me and dear... :)
After dinner, we moved into the apartment. They call it the Kukup Resort. It is basically someone's house, rented out for tourists use.
It's quite nice a cosy... :)
BBQ time.
Drinking time!
Drunk and eating chicken wing.... -___-""
And then we are on our way back to Singapore the next day...
Happy New Year to all and have a great 2009~!

Random Events Updates...

Some random updates of events that happened some times ago. Been very busy with work, so I can hardly blog in details. Just let the photos do most of the talking... :)

James's promotion to Probation Officer (PO). Of course, he must go through the standard procedures first... hehehe...
Congrats bro~!

And there was the Mocca Event: Full Throttle MocCarnival organised by Media Corp.

Thursday, December 25, 2008

Days of my life... Finally some updates...

Been a long long time since I last updated... Yes, I am really damn busy. Work is sucking up most of my time and I hardly have time for anything else. Oh well, life goes on =P

Merry X'mas to all~!
Got my X'mas present early from dear because she can't hide her excitement... haha... Its a very cool ellesse watch... yup, the one that Jay Chou wore in the advertisement... hehe...
Somehow, she managed to find a Polar Bear card... so cute~! Thanx dear~! :)
I bought myself a present too... hehe... Finally realizing a dream. This box contain my bike... The feel is really like buying a BIG toy. Its all packed nicely in the box and delivered to you. So fun and exciting... haha...
My HOG has arrived!!! Waiting to be unpacked... hehe...
Went to collect the bike and was surprised to see so many MRMC bros there... all came to show support and share the joy... haha... And this is Gary, showing me how to operate my toy.... :)
He gave me the seat too... save me quite a lot of money... Thanx man! On my way back, kena a super duper heavy rain... sianz.. first day on my new toy, kena drenched... But its okie.. I'm a biker, not a rider and I'm not made of paper (Ben's favourite quote!). Straight away went to town to meet dear cuz I wanna share my joy with her. Guess she is not comfortable with the bike cuz she gotta get used to the new sitting posture... Hope she can get comfortable with it soon... :)

That's my present for myself~!

Monday, December 15, 2008

The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams...

Monday, November 03, 2008

MRMC Halloween Party @ Thumper

MRMC had our usual Halloween Ride and Party on 31st Oct.... First stop was Zouk, to take photos with those dressed-up party goers. Then it was to Thumper for a whole night of party!
First stop, Zouk.... The queue was damn long... by the time we reach there at 9pm, the queue was already until the bridge.... luckily we were not going into Zouk to party...
The ladies were more dressed up than us...
Group photo outside Zouk.
Before heading to Thumper...
At Thumper... not as crowded as Zouk, but still quite fun.... :)
Happy Halloween~!

Monday, October 27, 2008

MRMC Day trip to Kluang

A short day trip to Kluang, Malaysia... that's Chee Wee's home town. Its all about riding, eating, riding, eating.... Too long never go for long rides.. body aching all over.... =P
Gathering at Taman Jurong Mac
Before the trip... still looking fresh..
Chee Wee's house is damn big lah! Can house 18 bikes, 3 cars, with a lot more space to spare! Shiok ah... haha...
Taking a break after the ride...
At Chee Wee's place... looking not so fresh... Think I really old already lah... last time cheong 300km ++ to KL don't feel tired... now only 100km++ to Kluang, whole body aching already... =P
MRMC @ Kluang
You don't often get parking lots reserved for you in front of the shopping centre, with 2 security guards looking after your bikes... hehe..