MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS..
Chapter One
Men mistakenly expect women to think, communicate, and react the way men do; women mistakenly expext men to feel. communicate and respond the way that women do. We have forgotten that MEN AND WOMEN ARE SUPPOSED TO BE DIFFERENT. This leads to unncessary conflicts and friction.
Men felt loved when they feel that they are needed. Women felt loved when they feel that they are being cherished.
When men and women are able to respect and accept their differences then love has a chance to blossom!!! Love is magical, and it can last, if we remember our differences.
Chapter Two
The most frequently expressed complaint women have about their men is that men don't listen! Men tends to offer solutions to women when a women complaints to make her feel better. He is confused when she doesn't appreciate this gesture of love. No matter how many times she tells him that he's listening, he don't gets it and keep doing the same thing. WOMEN WANTS EMPATHY, BUT HE THINKS SHE WANTS SOLUTIONS.
The most frequently expressed complaint men have abt women is that they are trying to change them.When a women loves a man she feels responsible to assist him in growing and tries to help him improve the way he does things. She thinks she is nurturing him, while he feels he's been controlled. INSTEAD, WHAT HE WANTS IS HER ACCEPTANCE.
MARSIANs: A men's sense of self is defined through his ability to achieve results. To offer a man advices, is to presume tat he doesn't know what to do or that he can't do it on his own.
VENUSIANs: A women's sense of self is defined through her feelings and the quality of her relationships. She felt loved when cherished when someone listens.
What marsians should do: Learning to listen. Men needs to remember that women talk abt problems to get close and not necessary to get solutions.
What venusians should do: Give up giving advices and criticism.
Chapter Three
One of the biggest difference between men and women is how they cope with stress!
How Men cope with stress:
They never talks about whats bothering him, he would never burden another man with his problems. Instead, he becomes very quiet and goes to his private cave to think abt his problem, and will try to solve it.
When a man is stressed, he will withdraw into the cave of his mind and focus on solving a problem. he becomes so focused on solving his one problem that he temporarily loses awareness of everything else.
How women react to this cave:
When a man is stuck in his cave, he is powerless to give his partner the quality attention she deserves. It is hard for her to accept him at these times because she doesn't know how stressed he is. She feels hurt when he turned on the news or goes outside to play some basketball and ignores her. She then may ask for his support in a demanding tone, as if she has to fight for her rights with this uncaring men.
On the other side, men generally have little awareness of how distant they become when they are in the cave.
How Women Cope with stress:
When a women is stressed she instinctively feels a need to talk abt her feelings and all the problems that are associated with her feelings. If she is upset, then she is upset abt it ALL, big and small. She is not immediately concerned with finding solutions like men did, but rather seeks relief by expressing herself and being understood.
As a man under stress tends to focus on one problem and forget others, a woman under stress tends to expand and become overwhelmed by ALL problems. To feel better, women talk abt past, future, potential problems and even problems with no solutions. This is the way woman operates.
How men react when women need to talk:
When women talks abt problems, men usually resists. A man assumes she is talking with him abt her problems because she is holding him resposible. A man doesn't know that she will appreciate it if he just listens.
Peace: Men learned to respect that women needed to talk to feel better. Even if he didn't have much to say, he learned that by listening he could be very supportive. Women learned to respect that men needed to withdraw to cope with stress, not that they don't love her.
Chapter One
We usually become angry or frustrated with the opposite sex because we have forgotten this important truth. We expect the opposite sex to be more like ourselves. We desire them to"want what we want" and "feel the way we feel." This attitude sets us up to be disappointed again and again and prevents us from taking necessary time to communicate lovingly abt our differences. We MISTAKENLY assume that if our partners love us they will react and behave in certain ways.
Men mistakenly expect women to think, communicate, and react the way men do; women mistakenly expext men to feel. communicate and respond the way that women do. We have forgotten that MEN AND WOMEN ARE SUPPOSED TO BE DIFFERENT. This leads to unncessary conflicts and friction.
Men felt loved when they feel that they are needed. Women felt loved when they feel that they are being cherished.
When men and women are able to respect and accept their differences then love has a chance to blossom!!! Love is magical, and it can last, if we remember our differences.
Chapter Two
The most frequently expressed complaint women have about their men is that men don't listen! Men tends to offer solutions to women when a women complaints to make her feel better. He is confused when she doesn't appreciate this gesture of love. No matter how many times she tells him that he's listening, he don't gets it and keep doing the same thing. WOMEN WANTS EMPATHY, BUT HE THINKS SHE WANTS SOLUTIONS.
The most frequently expressed complaint men have abt women is that they are trying to change them.When a women loves a man she feels responsible to assist him in growing and tries to help him improve the way he does things. She thinks she is nurturing him, while he feels he's been controlled. INSTEAD, WHAT HE WANTS IS HER ACCEPTANCE.
MARSIANs: A men's sense of self is defined through his ability to achieve results. To offer a man advices, is to presume tat he doesn't know what to do or that he can't do it on his own.
VENUSIANs: A women's sense of self is defined through her feelings and the quality of her relationships. She felt loved when cherished when someone listens.
What marsians should do: Learning to listen. Men needs to remember that women talk abt problems to get close and not necessary to get solutions.
What venusians should do: Give up giving advices and criticism.
Chapter Three
One of the biggest difference between men and women is how they cope with stress!
How Men cope with stress:
They never talks about whats bothering him, he would never burden another man with his problems. Instead, he becomes very quiet and goes to his private cave to think abt his problem, and will try to solve it.
When a man is stressed, he will withdraw into the cave of his mind and focus on solving a problem. he becomes so focused on solving his one problem that he temporarily loses awareness of everything else.
How women react to this cave:
When a man is stuck in his cave, he is powerless to give his partner the quality attention she deserves. It is hard for her to accept him at these times because she doesn't know how stressed he is. She feels hurt when he turned on the news or goes outside to play some basketball and ignores her. She then may ask for his support in a demanding tone, as if she has to fight for her rights with this uncaring men.
On the other side, men generally have little awareness of how distant they become when they are in the cave.
How Women Cope with stress:
When a women is stressed she instinctively feels a need to talk abt her feelings and all the problems that are associated with her feelings. If she is upset, then she is upset abt it ALL, big and small. She is not immediately concerned with finding solutions like men did, but rather seeks relief by expressing herself and being understood.
As a man under stress tends to focus on one problem and forget others, a woman under stress tends to expand and become overwhelmed by ALL problems. To feel better, women talk abt past, future, potential problems and even problems with no solutions. This is the way woman operates.
How men react when women need to talk:
When women talks abt problems, men usually resists. A man assumes she is talking with him abt her problems because she is holding him resposible. A man doesn't know that she will appreciate it if he just listens.
Peace: Men learned to respect that women needed to talk to feel better. Even if he didn't have much to say, he learned that by listening he could be very supportive. Women learned to respect that men needed to withdraw to cope with stress, not that they don't love her.
